Shame on you?
Here are some helpful ideas.
“shame “A very painful feeling or experience of believing that you are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” – Dr. Gershen Kaufmann
Shame is a complex emotion and can be difficult to define. It is often described as humiliation, embarrassment, or a feeling of worthlessness. It can be triggered by a variety of events, such as making a mistake, being criticized, or feeling like you’ve let someone down.
Guilt is different, which is a feeling of remorse or remorse for having done something wrong. Shame is how you feel about yourself, whereas guilt is how you feel about your actions.
Shame can have a huge impact on our thoughts, feelings and actions. It can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and social withdrawal. In some cases, shame can lead to self-harm or suicide.
There are many things we can do to deal with it. One strategy that helps is to challenge negative thoughts about yourself. You can also focus on your strengths and achievements and remind yourself that you are not alone in feeling shame. If you are in significant distress, it is important to seek professional help.
“Shame is a very painful feeling that comes from believing that you are not good enough.” – Christopher Jarmer
Drug addiction and shame are often interrelated. Shame can trigger drug use, and drug use can lead to feelings of shame. This can create a vicious cycle that is difficult to break.
our children. It can be triggered by many things, such as making a mistake, being criticized, or feeling like you’ve let someone down. When children feel shame, they may withdraw from others, avoid social situations, and engage in self-destructive behaviors such as drug use.
Drug use is often seen as a sign of weakness or failure. When children use drugs, they may feel that they are not good enough or that they have let themselves down. This can lead to feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness, and people who use drugs are more likely to use drugs again.
There are a few more things you should know about shame.
- Shame is a universal emotion. Everyone experiences it at some point in their life.
- Shame can be a healthy emotion. It helps us learn from our mistakes and act in a more socially acceptable way.
- But it can also be a destructive feeling. When shame is chronic or severe, it can lead to a variety of mental health problems.
There are many things people can do to help themselves.
Here are some ideas.
- Challenge your negative thoughts. When you feel embarrassed, it’s important to challenge the negative thoughts that come with it. For example, if you make a mistake, you might think, “What a loser I am.” Instead, think of it this way: “Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes.” i’m just a human ”
- Focus on your strengths. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. What are you good at? What do you enjoy doing? Reminding yourself of your strengths makes you feel better about yourself.
- Please seek support. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about your feelings. Talking about your shame can help you feel less alone and start challenging the negative thoughts you hold.
- Learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It is important to learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes. This doesn’t mean you have to forget what you did, but it does mean you need to let go of the guilt and shame that comes with it.
- Practice self-compassion. Self-compassion means being kind to yourself and showing understanding, even if you make mistakes. Practice self-compassion by telling yourself things like, “I’m doing the best I can,” or “I’m not perfect, but I’m okay.”
If you struggle with embarrassment, know that you are not alone. There is someone who can help you. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, coach, or counselor.
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